Why does my baby prefer dad sometimes?

It is common for a baby to prefer dad sometimes, and it usually is not a sign of rejection. These preferences often shift over time as babies develop and as their routines, moods, and attachments change.

Here are some common reasons this can happen:

• Attachment and comfort: A baby can be securely attached to one caregiver and still show a temporary preference for the other parent. Preference does not mean they love one parent more.
• Developmental changes: As babies grow, they start showing clearer preferences, separation anxiety, and stronger reactions to familiar people and routines. Babies also begin to understand that they are separate from their caregivers during infancy, which can be part of why preferences become more noticeable.
• Novelty and play: If dad has more high-energy play, different sounds, or different routines, that can feel exciting or soothing at certain times.
• Sensory differences: Babies may respond differently to a deeper voice, different carrying style, scent, or overall energy.

How to handle it

• Don’t take it personally: This is usually a phase, not a judgment on your parenting.
• Keep things calm and consistent: If your baby wants dad, try to hand them over calmly rather than turning it into a struggle.
• Build your own routines: Small one-on-one rituals like a song, cuddle, or bedtime story can help strengthen your bond.

If the preference comes with extreme withdrawal, poor feeding, unusual sleepiness, or signs of pain or illness, check with your pediatrician.